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Saturday, January 5, 2013

BRIEF SUMMARY OF THE CASE


NOTE:  I shall refer to myself as "wife" and to my ex-husband as "husband".

After many years of domestic abuse, on March 14, 2011, husband attempted to kill his wife with a large wine bottle, wearing a surgical glove. His wife called the police. Husband was arrested by the Riviera Beach Police Department in Florida, and charged with the felony crime of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon.

The following morning, on March 15, 2011, in Palm Beach County’s 15th Judicial Circuit, wife was granted a temporary injunction for protection against domestic violence. At a final hearing two weeks later on March 29, 2011, husband agreed to continue the injunction indefinitely. It remains in full force and effect today.

In the interim, husband filed for dissolution of marriage from his wife on March 22, 2011. His abuse, however, did not cease. First, he confiscated his wife's mail from the mailbox without her consent (the mailbox was not located outside the house – but in a central location in the development). Then he diverted the pool service business on which the couple had relied for income since 2004 when wife purchased it, by directing the customers to pay a new business he had created. Thereafter, he turned off water and garbage collection in the marital home where his wife was residing alone, pillaged her bank accounts, and changed her mailing address to his new address, where he resided with his mistress, thereby receiving all of his wife’s mail. This allowed him to use her credit and debit cards.  None of his actions were grounds for violating the injunction for protection – according to the Riviera Beach Police Department – although a second police report was filed in regards to his actions regarding her mail.

Wife – a woman who does not drive because of a seizure disorder – found herself with no income, no running water, living in an area completely lacking in public transportation, unable to get around – not even to buy groceries or escape danger easily. With the dwindling funds she had remaining, wife – desperate to survive – relocated to the state of Maryland on June 2, 2011 – an area with excellent public transportation. She domesticated her injunction in court in Maryland, sought domestic violence counseling, enrolled in the Maryland Address Confidentiality Program, and began working temporary positions to rebuild her life. Her story should end here, but alas, it does not.

In February 2012, after almost a year of inactivity in the divorce proceedings, husband was granted an ex parte order compelling Wife to comply with discovery requests filed over a year beforehand. Borrowing funds from a friend, wife briefly retained an attorney (who later withdrew). Wife complied with all discovery requests; however, she redacted any information which would lead to husband discovering her location (from her bank statements, rental lease, and pay stubs). This was not sufficient for husband, a persistent abuser bent on using any measure, including the legal system, to locate his victim. He demanded that she reveal her new home address and her employer’s address, and filed a motion for contempt.

Wife’s attorney sought a protective order from the court to allow her to maintain confidentiality of her location. The court ruled against her, ordering wife to resubmit unredacted discovery documents. In grievous fear for her life should husband discover her location, wife chose not to comply. She knew the consequences were that she may lose her right to all the marital assets. What she did not know was what would happen later, and the fraudulent actions to which her husband would resort in order to discover her location.

On May 29, 2012, as a result of her non-compliance, the court struck wife’s pleadings and prohibited her from participating in her own divorce. On June 18, 2012, husband was awarded all the marital assets, and further obtained a judgment against his wife in the amount of almost $31,000 for fraudulent “equitable distribution,” suit costs, and attorney’s fees. Husband walked away with a 3 bedroom, 2.5 bath, 2 car garage house with considerable equity, a valuable Corvette, a very profitable business, and two other vehicles – all of which his wife had originally bought from premarital funds. Wife filed a motion for reconsideration, which was denied.

Wife has now filed an appeal, pro se, with Florida’s Fourth District Court of Appeals.  The state of Maryland has filed a brief in support of Wife's position (as "Amicus Curiae" -- friend of the court) arguing the dangers of courts ordering domestic violence victims to disclose their addresses to their abusers.

As the judgment stands, it provides husband with the legal right to “track down”, locate and pursue his (now ex-)wife to collect on the monetary judgment. Husband’s attorney threatens that it will be easy to locate her, since they have her social security number. This is a direct threat to her physical safety. She believes that once he finds her, husband will finish what he started on March 14, 2011, and this time, succeed in killing her.

More importantly, if the judgment is not overturned, it will set a legal precedent which will be used by Florida courts (and can be relied on in other states) the right to order domestic violence victims in address confidentiality programs to disclose their actual home address and place of employment to their abusers.

Worse, it will send a message to abusers across the United States:  "If you want to find your victim who has escaped you, simply rent/buy in Florida for long enough to establish residency.  File a lawsuit against your victim, and a Florida court will order her to disclose her new address."

This case is indeed a landmark case which could affect all domestic violence victims in the US, particularly all those in the 36 states which have adopted Address Confidentiality Programs.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

LIVING LIFE AFTER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Hello world.  For a long time now, I have wanted to find a way to write my story.  But I don't have an ending to my story yet.  It's still an ongoing saga in so many ways.  Yet, I'm afraid that if I don't write it now, I may never get the opportunity to write it.

I'm a domestic violence survivor ... But my abusive ex-husband has an almost $31,000 monetary judgment against me, as part of a fraudulent divorce judgment, which gives him the legal right to find me and collect that money from me. I don't believe that is what he wants to do.  He wants to find me so he can kill me.  I'm currently battling against that in appellate court.  But, I'm all alone in this battle.  You see, I can't afford to retain an attorney.  And the case is in the state of Florida where there are no attorneys willing to help pro bono.  So, as I write, I have a target on my head.  If he finds me, he will kill me.  I am certain of it.  But there's nothing I can do to stop this ... unless the appellate court overturns the judgment.  Appellate courts are slow to act.  It will be close to a year from now before they render an opinion.  

So, how did this happen?  

Well, you see, my pleadings were stricken in divorce court.  Pleadings are anything that you file with the court.  They're the documents of your case, if you will.  If they're stricken, it's as if you never filed anything.  That's the position I found myself in because of the judge's ruling.  The judge prohibited me from participating in my own divorce.  This gave my ex-husband a position of power.

Why were they stricken, those pleadings?

They were stricken primarily because I refused to give my husband my new home address and work address in another state.  There were other reasons, and I'll go into them.  But they were the main reasons.  I had moved away after my husband stole the family business and shut off water in the marital home, making it impossible for me to live there any longer.  A year later, the divorce was still ongoing.  As part of discovery (a process where you provide each other with information and documentation), the divorce court judge ordered me to give my home address to my husband's attorney, and my work address to my husband.  I don't drive. He could have followed me home from work.  He could also have requested a copy of his file from his attorney.  So, I did not comply.  I needed to preserve my safety, above anything else  I was aware that by refusing, I may lose my right to the marital assets (the house, the vehicles, even the business -- all of which I bought from money I earned before we were married.)  I was prepared for that.   I was ready to walk away, let him have it all.  All I wanted was the right to live my life.

That wasn't what happened?

What I was not prepared for was that my husband would present fraudulent information during a default hearing, omit the business entirely, and be awarded a judgment against me that still gives him a way to find me.

Some people find my story difficult to believe.  But similar stories are happening all over the US to domestic violence victims.  What I seek to discuss here is what happened, how it happened, the mistakes I made, what I've learned, and the lack of assistance available to domestic violence victims, particularly in Florida.

My goals are also a little selfish in one way.  If he finds me and kills me, I want there to be a record of what happened to me in my own words.  It may be the only way my voice will be heard from beyond the grave.

And maybe, just maybe, my story will help someone else.

For a little background on the abuse:

Before I realized it was abuse ... this was a typical conversation with my husband.

A rough diary -- I kept this diary of abusive events from the last 5 months of my marriage.